Too often I have heard of horror first dates or even horror divorces.
You hear of no-shows on a first date, or of leaving a date without letting the other person even know they have gone, or of insults levelled or remarks made that make you wonder what it is about people that makes them behave in certain ways.
Sometimes, your heart sinks. It just does.
We all have our tastes and preferences, our types and feelings, and yet they do not mean we afford those who seem different to receive less care, respect, attention or kindness.
A simple thanks but no thanks, or a simple I appreciate you for spending time with me, however, I am not feeling 100% into you, and so thank you and good luck, or perhaps even you’re a wonderful person just not the right person for me.
There is a myriad of ways to communicate with integrity, maturity and kindness.
My father would repeat at times a saying he heard growing up in Croatia, and it was something like this: the more time I spend with people the more I like animals.
I guess, from his perspective, the fickleness and vacillating nature of people in their actions and words, or in their love, reveals that it is limited, finite and conditional unlike the enduring and constant love we might feel for and from a pet or domestic animal.
We are all doing the best we can in the constellation of who are we are, how we feel, the resources we have and the consciousness at which we are operating. Sure, it may not be enough for you, or good enough per se, but it is the best they can do.
By becoming clearer, stronger and wiser within we instinctively sort and intuitively sift through experiences and people with a degree of natural selection that comes from connection born of like consciousness and we can see readily the higher values and true nature that seems to be the compass by which another lives.
Love yourself and your life enough that you invest the time and energy to cleanse and clear; you’re worth it—always are, always were and always will be.