Throughout my life, I’ve cried, a lot. Sometimes the sadness has felt so deep it was almost like my soul was weeping tears to fill an ocean.
I was always a cheerful, bright and bubbly, lively person, yet life situations and certain patterns can feel like burdens. Many a time, I was told not to cry, to hide the tears and stuff down the emotion.
I always felt things deeply. Being sensitive, I tried to toughen up, harden up and close out the emotions that were as confronting as they were overwhelming.
Yet, all the time, hiding the feelings only meant they grew stronger beneath the surface and I felt unbalanced, unstable and unwell.
Crying, it seems to many, is a weakness that needs to be shunned or avoided, yet it, too, like all things, serves a purpose and may be both cleansing and cathartic. We are human beings: we feel, we sense, we experience.
When we deny parts of ourselves or suppress elements of our feeling state, we numb ourselves and distract ourselves from being authentic and it can make us less functional, balanced, well-rounded and well-adjusted.
Men are and can be just as sensitive and creative, just as emotional and feeling as women, and it is a beautiful thing to embrace it and allow it, to hold a space where another can be vulnerable.
Regardless of age or gender, irrespective of culture or conditioning, there are times or phases in life when crying may be the very release that heals us inside and sheds the old. If it continues unchecked and uncontrollably for weeks, months or longer then it may be useful to connect your chosen and qualified practitioner to see if there is something else at play that is being resolved or seeking resolution.
For some, there is no time limit on grief. There is simply a process of releasing it to allow ourselves to grow from it and become stronger for it. Loss is a part of life and is evident all around us in nature as a cycle of birth and death, so allowing what is to be is part of that journey we, as humans, take in experiencing life too.
Let it flow, let it out, let it be!